This weekend we spent at the CSA meditation retreat in Lakemont, GA. I was reminded of the importance of being with people that you want to be like. I want to be like Roy Eugene Davis, and so I find it beneficial to be with him. It is the clarity of his consciousness that also uplifts my own.
Also I was reminded that the thoughts we think have an influence in the quality of our life. Today after your meditation practice, ask your self, “what thoughts do I want to think today?” “What do I want to be true for my self today?” Then hold to those thoughts, letting go of identification with all others.
”I’d like to ask how you handle the “very strange” and needy folk that are sometimes attracted to this and other esoteric methods.” (This was in regards to the Yuen Method.)
My response was:
“As far as handling strange and needy folk…
I do the corrections that are presented and leave it at that. If they are interested in changing their strange or needy ways, that is up to them. I also frequently refer these folk onto more patient practitioners. Ideally they need strengthened to functioning in reality and not in fantasy, which…most don’t have the desire or the resources to put the work in to address that. As a Yuen Method practitioner, I can make energetic corrections to clear their consciousness and prepare the ground for their own growth. If they don’t plant the seeds or dig up new weeds, I can’t help that.
An analogy comes to mind. If I am working with a person that wants to improve their life, yet doesn’t have the emotional maturity or the desire to do the work to get the skills they need to live effectively their life will not change very much. It can be likened to a person who really has a burning desire to be a mechanic. Yet they are crippled by past experiences of self doubt or abuse that leads them to believe they are worthless and incapable of achieving their goals. The Yuen Method can clear away the negative blocks of the past experiences, self doubt, abuse etc… but if they don’t take the initiative to sign up for classes or get a job to pay for their tuition, nothing much will change.
I suppose you could address the neediness and strange ideas directly, if in fact, those test as the reasons they are unhappy or not experiencing what they would like to. If I’ve not answered what you were asking, feel free to elaborate on what you want to know.”
A follow up email read:
“The strange and needy folk in this instance happened to be other students/interns at the last class I attended. I don’t know that I’m surprised that they were there, but I was most surprised that I was the object of their focus. Weird. Gave me a glimpse of what Dr. Yuen encounters and must control as a teacher. I suspect this is true of all teachers, regardless of their discipline. I guess I’m learning about boundaries in this situation.
The strange and needy clients I’ve encountered, I have handled pretty much as you described though not so clearly. Thanks for the mechanic example. That is helpful on many levels and in many situations.
What new and interesting things have I learned since last we spoke…
Sitting in one position for 10 hours is not good for the body. I’ve gone to a trainer who has been helping me strengthen my neck and given me exercises to do between sessions.
There are lots of people carrying heavy energetic burdens. I have a new appreciation for the health of my extended family.
Sometimes I am shocked by the people who come back to me after telling me that it didn’t work for them.
People are happy to pay for this work.
I need to develop a clear and lucid explanation for those who are truly interested but not tuned into the world of energy healing methods – like my family.
Sometimes there are miracles on the spiritual, psychic, emotional levels which don’t seem to translate to the physical. I have one client whose life has been transformed but she still has migraines and GERD. I have learned tremendously from her! She doesn’t care that the main physical issues haven’t responded because she is so happy otherwise. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this issue.
I am surprised by how different the causes of some of the “typical” issues I see can be from person to person. I have also seen the danger in becoming habitual in my responses. The greatest discipline is in not falling back on what went before.
Before I complete my training, I really need to see how others teach this method. Can recommendation some excellent teachers for my internship classes?”
My response was:
“Boundaries are good to learn. I’ve found in my experience that it is easy to give people what they want rather than what they need and takes practice to remain strong, and that it is always better to remain in the truth, rather than fantasy, even if it takes practice. ( The more I do this with myself, the easier it is for me to do it with others.)
Another analogy that came to me was that of a poor person and a millionaire. If you give both a rich person (Someone who has their act together) and poor person (someone more interested in being dependant and lost in fantasy) a million bucks (clear out all their junk using the Yuen Method) in one year, the poor person will more than likely have less money, and the millionaire will probably have found a way to make even more money using the million bucks. Paradigms needed shifted and skills learned. If you can do that too, great! If not, it’s always good to explain the importance of also working with someone to develop those skills.
That’s just the nature of people really.
As for practitioners/interns being weird, it can be likened to church. Most people go to church to hang out with their friends like a club, they are not interested in spiritual growth and what it takes to actualize that. The same thing with healing practitioners, they like hanging out in problems and so are attracted to places where problems exist…healing workshops…they are not really interested healing…they are interested in finding out the next neat problem to overcome. I don’t go to church, and I avoid healing workshops unless it’s necessary. ; )
Below are some responses to your comments.
–I need to develop a clear and lucid explanation for those who are truly interested but not tuned into the world of energy healing methods – like my family.
Why is that? Just do it and let the results speak for themselves or not. Remember, if it does or doesn’t work, it’s not your fault either way. You know what to do. As long as you do it, its up to the receiving end to make use of it. Explanations just get in the way.
–Sometimes there are miracles on the spiritual, psychic, emotional levels which don’t seem to translate to the physical. I have one client whose life has been transformed but she still has migraines and GERD. I have learned tremendously from her! She doesn’t care that the main physical issues haven’t responded because she is so happy otherwise. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this issue.
It depends on the client. Work on her to the effect of having no problems, or being perfectly healthy, feeling good, and digesting just fine. Strengthen the positive and focus on that rather than the negative symptoms.
-Before I complete my training, I really need to see how others teach this method. Can recommendation some excellent teachers for my internship classes?
Look up Prema Shanti and Mary Fox. They are both in Colorado I think. ”
I felt compelled to write a follow up to our last session. Since you are just getting involved in the “alternative” healing scene and also the “new age” crowd, I would like to share with you a few facts from my own experiences in this arena. My goal in this writing is not to dissuade you, but to save you time.
I’ve been professionally involved with this scene for the last 7 years. In that time I’ve met many people, healers, channels, herbalists, teachers, intuitives etc, etc. I’ve taught classes, taken classes, gotten sessions, given sessions, and observed many interactions, and also been told many experiences other people have, as well as had my own interesting perceptions. I’ve tried many products touted as amazing cures and remedies.
Of all the hundreds (maybe in the thousands) of people I’ve met in this field and worked with I can count 5 that I would actually fully trust their advice and knowledge, and would ask them to work with me.
Usually I’m one for saying “Healing doesn’t have to hurt.” I still agree with that. It doesn’t have to hurt. But sometimes it does. Sometimes life delivers a good kick in the head and it is bothersome. Life doesn’t do that for fun, it does it when people aren’t listening to it. It is important to listen to life. Life can communicate gently and peacefully, but ultimately it will do what is necessary to get its message across.
This week I could say I got a good kick in the head from life. That awoke in me quite a few realizations of the way I had been thinking and being and how I needed to change some of my internal environment.
Thankfully I have a few very helpful and people in my life. Using the Yuen Method we cut through the underlying causes. Using meditation I was able to reflect on what needed to change in myself and to re attune to my spiritual source.
After spending a good week feeling unsettled and anxious, I had a good night’s sleep last night. I had pleasant dreams. I awoke up early, joyfully.
I attribute this to the fact that I seriously took stock of how I was living and thinking and made a firm commitment to change. I must say I’ve tried this in the past couple of years, but it did not stick. There is a difference this time. I now know why I need to be different. Before I didn’t know the why, and so there was no real energy behind the commitment. As I’ve said before, knowing the why is very important. It somehow takes the struggle out of the process of becoming the goal.
I’ve both implied and said this before too, what happens to me in my life is the result of my own actions and thoughts. However, reassuring it might initially feel to blame someone else, that just skirts around the issue and ignores the real source of my experiences. Both pleasure and pain are the result of my internal states. They come to me because something in me attracts them.
I have a friend who has often said, that “it is not you I’m worried about, it’s the other guy.” An example might be one could be a perfect driver but some nut will come along and smash up your car. So it wasn’t your fault it was the other guy’s. There is no other guy. If it is within myself than I will experience it. If it is not, then I will not.
I’ve often been afraid to admit that understanding out loud, for fear that some cosmic law called, “Let’s Prove Ryan Wrong” would go into effect. Well…that may be. If I have that concept within my consciousness it has the potential to occur. Same thing applies.
Last night I dreamt I was sleeping in a bedroom at my father’s parent’s (now deceased) house. Mostly I associated them with unhappiness and strife, as that is how I knew them in life. But in this dream it was peaceful. I knew they were no longer alive, and I got up from bed and wandered through the living room and kitchen down stairs to the basement where I knew Melissa was. Before reaching the basement I was slightly afraid I would see the ghost of my grandmother. I kept going. At the top of the stairs I could see candlelight flickering in the basement. I would say it was wintertime and probably chilly outside. At the bottom of the stairs, I saw Melissa sitting in the middle of the room with decorated christmas trees all around her, two candles lit and a slew of decorations everywhere. She looked up at me and said, “I finally got to airing out under the bar and found all these. Did you know they were there?” She was indicating all the decorations. It was a very happy feeling.
Alcoholism was a known problem in my dad’s side of the family. Hence, the reference to the bar. When I woke up this morning from that dream I had a sense that underneath all the crap (the negativity and alcoholism of my father’s family) there is good and there is beauty and there is peace (The Christmas decorations), and that we can choose to see either.
For the longest while I felt that I had to experience both the good and the bad to be whole. Now I know that there is no need to create or experience drama or problems. Good and bad are just words. An experience is an experience. The label doesn’t change that. To be whole requires being whole. It doesn’t have to be conditioned.
“You are very strong at your core. Start living from that, in whatever way you can and it will become real to your outward experience.As far as feeling peoples traumas, emotions, etc. that is a natural result from your past. As I imagine it is similar with all people from alcoholic/abusive relationships, your sensitivity is extremely high to other peoples pain because you’ve been trained to be sensitive. It may seem like a problem at the moment when you work with people, but you have a leg up on other practitioners with this sensitivity. Your task is to bring the sensitivity under your control, so you can observe without getting sucked into it.
This is a letter I sent to a man working to heal his body. It felt important on a global level, so here it is.
“After seeing you in the hospital yesterday I got to reflecting on your situation this morning.
You’ve had surgery to cut out large masses of cancer. You’ve undergone chemo, and utilized various natural means of healing from EFT, to the Yuen Method, to various energy work. You’ve even had an astrological consultation and other recommendations. You gotten advice from doctors, alternative health practitioners and listened to your own inner guidance. You’ve told me that the medical community is running out of options, which is why you are now putting more emphasis on the “alternative” options.
Here is what I see when I see you. I see life strong in your being. I see a man who has become and is becoming very clear in his mental, emotional, and spiritual realizations. When I look at you, I don’t see the mental, emotional, and spiritual issues blocking your way any more. This is based on my first encounters with you however many years ago we’ve known each other. Sometimes you can look at a person and they just look dead and unresponsive or resistant inside. I do not see this when I look at you. Read the rest of this entry »
Yesterday it occurred to me as a realization, as opposed to a mental idea, that our bodies are a direct reflection of what is occuring in our lives. I knew this before, but it never dawned on me with such clarity as it did yesterday.
I began to catch a cold. Normally I would eat a bunch of raw garlic, drink a tablespoon full of apple cider vinegar in a glass of water every couple of ours and then take a really hot bath, wrap up in blankets and sweat it out over night. That would take care of it just about anytime I felt a cold start to come on.
Yesterday I decided to use the Yuen Method and EFT to knock it out. According to the Yuen Method colds are simply the result of unresolved grief and sadness. Here is the trick…it doesn’t always have to be your own! When people suffer, sometimes they feel better when others join them. In my case, this cold was the result of “not suffering as much as others”, particularly not suffering as much as family members. I was psychically weak to their troubles. Read the rest of this entry »
As I was driving around today, looking for a Christmas tree with a rootball, attempting to sell a guitar case on Ebay, and on my way to a Chinese buffet it dawned on me that pain, sickness, and growing old are the result of mismanaging experiences, emotions, thoughts and feelings. By learning how to master these aspects of our objective existence we can navigate life gracefully.
Two days ago, a friend asked me how distance healing worked. I didn’t give a very thorough answer. So to make up for that, here it is!
Healing of any kind works on Faith. This is not belief. Belief is hoping something is true. Faith is knowing something is true. Healing can occur through touch, words, drugs, surgery, herbs, or anything else. If the Faith is there it will work. If it is not, no matter what is done, it will not occur. Read the rest of this entry »
Jesus said something to the effect of, “You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.” In my experience in the healing profession, this fits nicely with what I’ve found the source of real healing to be. When I did hands on healing work, it didn’t seem to matter what the complaint was. If I placed my hands on the area of the symptom and tuned into to the feelings I was receiving from the area, and asked, “What is the cause of the problem” insights and intuitions would flash into my awareness. By acknowledging them the symptoms abated. Now with the Yuen Method the same holds true. By simply tuning into the other person and asking, “What is the root issue” problems clear quickly and effectively. Read the rest of this entry »
